On The Other Side is March by Sólrún Michelsen, translated from the Faroese by Marita Thomsen ends with a postscript below.
“Where is the old lady?”
“Which old lady?”
“The old old one in the red house?”
“You mean langomma?”
“Yes. Langomma.”
“She lives with Jesus now.”
“Not in the red house?” “No.” The little one goes quiet for a moment.
“She used to give us juice and vanilla cookies.”
Langomma means great grandmother and the little one in the above dialogue is the book's unnamed narrator's grandchild. The narrator of this slim novel (about 110 pages long) is woman in her 60s who has just begun to fill the void left by her grown up children. Just as she finds freedom, gathers pieces of her lost self before her children colonized her life, she's made to care for her very old mother whose memory is eroding gradually due to dementia. The narrator, at times, also takes care of her grandchildren, serving as a living bridge connecting generations of a family through the primary task of caregiving. There is the guilt of being able to do only so much interwoven with grief, grief of seeing one's mother reduced to an empty shell, a mother who even forgets to identify her own daughter, and with shame of wanting to move away from all responsibilities, move away without a care.
On the Other Side is March is a novel of dialogues, ruminations built on memories and moments - both fleeting and epiphanic. The prose flows like poetry, assumes hues of Danish hymns, Faroese ballads and folk songs. The rich oral tradition of singing and storytelling that has kept this language, spoken by about 75,000 worldwide, alive blossoms in the narrative structure. The novel, like a song, has its share of crescendos and decrescendos, studded with lines and even paragraphs that are epitome of grace, intelligence and poignance and lines that just stay muted or even incomprehensible. On how women carry the burden of caregiving, on how old age mercilessly robs one of character, charisma and dignity that one carefully built over years, On the Other Side of March is a deeply personal goodbye to a mother from a daughter, at the same time a ubiquitous rendition of women's lives.
That the book is a first by a Faroese woman author to be translated into English itself earns it lots of brownie points. The themes, though universal, have a strong sense of rootedness in the culture and language of the island that lies between Iceland and Scotland. While there are several excerpts (some of them shared below) that touch an emotional chord, there are some that slip quietly from our grasp. Thanks to translation, this deeply humane novel is available to many readers across the world.
Favourite passages from the book -
"All women have been saddled with an excess of
imagination. We all conjure up that biopic in our mind, intended for the big
reel. Then when the tape breaks again and again, we are disappointed at first;
yet continue to splice it back together. Women can’t see their own youthful
beauty, until years later when by chance they come across a photo taken by
someone else. Until they notice that they are looking at themselves in the
picture. It is said that women are actually angels. When someone breaks off our
wings we simply carry on flying. Just on broomsticks. We are nothing if not
flexible."
"When you throw a pebble in a pond, the ripples
spread outward. For the old it goes in the opposite direction. The world
contracts in steadily shrinking circles. Eat and sleep. Back to basics."
"Blood. Sweat. Tears. These lifelong female
life fluids. Flowing and flowing. On and on, until all sources dry up. Until
the last drop congeals and the last pearl is wrung out. The final tear drawn
from the once overflowing beaker."
"There is something divine about gardens, just like there is something divine about words and music. This trinity, which enables us to survive in spite of everything. To watch plants sprout, grow, and flower is like observing and helping both life and yourself along the right path."
"I see my childhood, where the sun always
shone. Youth with its dizzying ups and downs. Life in the middle with
thunderstorms and summer breezes, where anything can happen and everything
happens. It’s good to be here where I am now. I stand surrounded by my dearest
of all ages. Just as the sooth-sayer in Oxford Street foretold. Out there lie
countries which are now struck off my atlas. There is no revisiting them.
Others I have yet to see. The sun has moved to the west. But dare anyone say
that the sunset cannot also be dazzling? Youth and the dawn of life are vanity,
according to Ecclesiastes. These are held to be wise words."
“As each ages so he rages,” the adage goes. But it leaves out why. Perhaps it isn’t just that they are disappointed with life. Perhaps they are waging a battle. Refusing to let others define them, when it isn’t how they feel themselves. Or at what point do you admit that you are old?




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